This thing is of paramount importance that what we do in front of children, it should be always something good, because they are seeing us and observing us all the time. We never know that anything that we do or any of our actions, would affect them in a way that we mightn’t even imagine.
The damage done to the child when he / she’s caught between the wrath, anger and resentment of his / her parents, is irreversible. Once that is done, there is no coming back. It might sound a bit harsh, but that is cruel and top of that lifelong too in some cases. It is there to stay unfortunately.
Kindly don’t tell them you’re together only for the children’s sake. Please don’t make them a shuttlecock between your egos and your vainglory. Children should never be told how much you hate your spouse. Don’t ask them to choose you because they “should”. Children deserve to be pampered. To be valued. It’s their right. It’s the parents’ duty. Who will they look up to, if not you? They’re your resonsibility. Don’t live together if you aren’t happy. Please go your separate ways because that’s your choice and your right to decide, because even this is written in our Holy Book (although it is not one of the desired acts, but if need be, should be taken). Make yourself a priority, if that is what makes you happy. Whatever you do, just don’t make the children play the role of a peacemaker.
Children are supposed to behave like children. That little heart breaks into a million pieces when it is caught between that tug and pull of his / her parents. When the child who is forced to pick a side between two people he / she loves the most, never loves him / herself completely. They don’t let anyone love them completely either because of the simple fact that they have trust issues. They don’t know how to trust when someone tells them they love them unconditionally, it is something alien to them since they have not experienced anything of the sort in their lives. Something breaks inside and then never heals. Never.